Most of us would say our marriages have had to weather some hardships over the past year. With our world being so turned upside down we are having to work hard to re-orient to one another. Perhaps through all of this your marriage feels a bit weathered?
In the pitching seas of our pandemic world, we’ve found ourselves in a life raft with just our spouse as a shipmate. The one person we can hug, talk to unmasked face to face and wrestle with grief, fear, and uncertainty. Like it or not—we are companions at sea navigating the storm.
We shipmates have been in survival. A cancelled vacation is a hole in the hull. The loss of a job and income are life preservers gone adrift. Constant children’s needs with no reprieve nearly cap-size the vessel. You feel like you are barely surviving and keeping yourself afloat.
Marriage is a heroic act. The attempts and desires to keep your heart buoyed and your deep intention to pursue one another matters. Perhaps this is the first storm of your marriage or maybe its #273. Either way now is a good time to give your weather-beaten heart some space to reflect on where you have been together and anchor yourselves once again to the shores of hope. What do your hearts need? Where is there wounding? What is the story of your marriage?